To the Scared Pregnant Teen or Woman, YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
The news about New York and Virginia and third trimester abortions has been eating away at me. Colorado, where I live, also allows third trimester abortions and I don’t know how we got here as a society.
This is Noah, most of you who read my blog know him and have had the opportunity to watch him grow up here on social media (Instagram Facebook). He is and always will be the single best thing that has ever happened to me. How can I say that when I have another child, one on the way and a husband? If it weren't for Noah, I wouldn't be where I am today. My life changed directions drastically for the better when he came into it. I actually have nightmares about where I would have ended up if it weren't for Noah saving me.
Noah was an unplanned pregnancy. I was 20 years old and scared out of my mind. So many people pushed me toward abortion, but over time I silenced their voices so I could listen to my heart without their influence. I know what it's like to be scared, full of emotion and at the very same time be emotionless. I know what it's like to have people tell you to "take care of it" but question their suggestions because you've heard a beautiful strong heartbeat. I know what it's like to be unsure of the future. I know what it's like to wonder how you're going to raise a child without a partner to lean on. I know what it's like to wonder what kind of disadvantage a child is at with a one-parent household. I know what it's like to have very little college under your belt and wonder how you'll finish school. I know every single emotion someone goes through when they find out they're carrying an unplanned child. You can read more on My Path to Choosing Life.
Abortion is a touchy subject for a lot of us. It is touchy for those who have opinions on it, those who have had one and for those who have refused one. There is no question of the emotions stimulated by the word alone. I am here for proof that there are other options. I am here as proof that an unplanned pregnancy can turn out okay. Through my years as a mother, I have never met anyone who regrets their child. I have, however, met many people who regret their abortion.
I am also here as proof that there is and always will be a family who is willing to take in a baby if you feel you're not ready. It's okay to not be ready. It's okay to refuse an abortion and still not be ready to raise a child. There is no shame in wanting to choose life for your child, but not being able to follow through with the rest of parenting. In fact, I applaud that. Thank you to all of those who have chosen to give their child the beauty of life through adoption. My husband and I have been open about the desire to adopt one day and if the opportunity comes from a post like this then I am 100% here for it. I am also here to offer help to anyone in anyway I can. Although we can't adopt every baby, I can certainly help find a loving family that can. I know multiple beautiful and worthy families in line, waiting to adopt. If you or anyone you know is in a pregnancy crisis situation and are unsure of what to do, PLEASE feel free to message me on here or on social media (Instagram Facebook). I mean that with everything I have, at any time of day, I am available. I'll offer you my phone number to start so we can brainstorm ideas, options and find the pregnancy center nearest you. If you’re Colorado local, Alternatives is a great choice to start and has multiple locations. If you’re local and have no one to go to your appointment with you, I will go.
It is my hope that others who are prolife who read this continue to offer their help beyond denouncing abortion. It is my hope that my prolife family offers their time, love, support, care and even homes to those who need it the most.
To the scared pregnant teen or woman, YOU ARE NOT ALONE. I have been where you are and I would love to walk it out with you.
I want to add that I am the product of an unplanned pregnancy and a strong woman who refused to abort me. I am so thankful and appreciative that I get to be here today to share my story and son with the world.